Epstein, Mark (1998). Going To Pieces Without Falling Apart. New York: Broadway Books.
This is a wonderful fusion of Buddhist thought and Western Psychotherapy. We particularly like the parts about the relationship between mindfulness and change.
Frankl, Viktor (1997 Reprint). Man's Search For Meaning. New York: Washington Square Press.
A most important book that is at once sad and celebratory: it is a profound validation of the human spirit.
Miller, Alice. (1996 Revised & Updated) The Drama of The Gifted Child: The Search For The True Self. New York: Basic Books.
A touching and inspiring book written right from the heart.
Moustakas, Clark E. (1961). Loneliness. New York: Prentice-Hall
We all deal with loneliness and loss throughout our lives. Moustakas helps us appreciate the informative power of these states.
Rogers, Carl (1995 Reprint). On Becoming A Person: A Therapist's View of Psychotherapy. New York: Mariner Books.
This is the book that started "client centered" therapy. Rogers was a genius and although the book feels a little dated now, there are some real gems in it.
Schwartz, Richard C. (1995). Internal Family Systems Therapy. New York: Guilford.
Schwartz's work has had a dramatic influence on our work, particularly with individuals. He offers a refreshing way for us to look at ourselves and to understand the rich complexity of our inner life.
Seligman, Martin E.P. (1993). What You Can Change, And What You Can't: Learning To Accept Who You Are. New York: Ballentine.
Seligman gives us a down to earth discussion of change and reality.
Viorst, Judith (1998 Reprint). Necessary Losses. New York: Fireside Books.
Understanding loss throughout the life cycle is liberating, and offers a model of growth that takes us deeper into our experience.
Aron, Elaine N. (1998). The Highly Sensitive Person: How To Thrive When The World Overwhelms You. New York: Broadway Books.
Whether you regard yourself as highly sensitive or not, this book helps us understand the wide range of human sensitivities and the need for each individual to take responsibility for themselves and to respect the particular needs of others.
Glasser, William (1999). Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom. New York: Perennial.
We use the basic elements of choice theory in all our work with couples. Glasser's formulation is concise and straightforward, offering a clear path to personal responsibility in relationships.
Ridley, Matthew (2003). The Red Queen: Sex and The Evolution of Human Nature. New York: Perennial.
Ridley provides an engaging introduction to evolutionary biology and insight into the role of sexuality in intimate relationships.
Understanding the bio-evolutional underpinnings of sexuality informs intimate relationships in the most fundamental way.
Tannen, Deborah (1991 Reprint). That's Not What I Meant: How Conversational Styles Makes or Breaks Relationships. New York: Ballentine.
Tannen was the pioneer researcher in the area of communication styles. Her approach demystifies the fundamentals of inter-gender communication.
Fisher, Roger & Ury, William (1991, 2nd Edition). Getting To Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. New York: Penguin Books.
The Harvard Negotiation Project initially developed this approach in 1977. This updated version includes answers to questions that people ask when using these techniques. The method stresses meeting varied needs, not winning. We have used this book extensively in our practice both with couples and businesses.
Communication & Learning Styles
Armstrong, Thomas (1999 Revised & Updated). Seven Kinds of Smart: Identifying and Developing Your Multiple Intelligences. New York: Plume.
A practical application of Gardner's theory that is easy to work with. It is both affirming and challenging.
Gardner, Howard (1993). Multiple Intelligences: The Theory in Practice. New York: HarperCollins.
Gardner's approach to intelligence and how we learn has revolutionized our understanding of the mind.
Goleman, Daniel (1997). Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than I.Q.
New York: Bantam.
An excellent basic exploration of this new and useful way of looking at our emotional and intuitive topography.
Breggin, Peter R. & Cohen, David (1999). Your Drug May Be Your Problem.
New York: Perseus Publishing.
We have become increasingly involved in the growing controversy around the use of psychoactive drugs. This book is an indispensable resource for anyone taking these medications or considering taking them.
Breggin, Peter R. (2002). The Ritalin Fact Book: What Your Doctor Won't Tell You.
New York: Perseus Publishing
Very helpful for parents struggling with ADD diagnosis and considering medication for their children.
Mind - Body
Sarno, John E. (1998). The Mindbody Prescription: Healing The Body, Healing The Pain. New York: Time Warner.
Dr. Sarno offers a simple approach in this very complicated and misunderstood area. He has had excellent success with patients and gives a clear explanation of his concepts.
Armstrong, Thomas (1997). The Myth of ADD: 50 Ways To Improve Your Child's Behavior & Attention Span Without Drugs, Labels, or Coercion. New York: Plume.
A practical book about developing structure in a child's world to insure success.
Glasser, William (2002). Unhappy Teenagers: A way For Parents And Teachers To Reach Them. New York: HarperCollins
Choice theory for teens.
Gurian, Michael (1998). The Wonder of Girls: Understanding The Hidden Nature of Our Daughters. New York: Jeremy Tarcher.
A must read for the parents of adolescent girls. Gurian, a family therapist, talks about this most exciting and vulnerable time with grace and sensitivity.
Gurian, Michael (1997). The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors & Educators Can Do To Shape Boys Into Exceptional Men. New York: HarperCollins.
Same as above for boys.
Jensen, Eric (1998). Teaching With The Brain In Mind. Alexandria, VA: Association For Supervision and Curriculum Development.
This summary clarifies what children need from the standpoint of brain development.
Kessler, Rachael (2000). The Soul of Education. Alexandria, VA: Association For Supervision and Curriculum Development.
Kessler tells us what teenagers really need. The vitality and depth of communication in this book are inspiring.
Krementz, Jill (1988). How It Feels When Parents Divorce. New York: Knopf.
Krementz has captured the experience of divorce from the child's point of view.
Simple stories from real children informs us from the heart.
Moustakas, Clark E. (1959). Psychotherapy With Children. New York: Ballentine Books
The conversations Moustakas has with children open up a new level of understanding about childhood and connection.
Freed, Jeffrey & Parsons, Laurie (1998). Right-Brained Children in a Left-Brained World: Unlocking The Potential of Your ADD Child. New York: Fireside Books.
Once again we learn that every child is indeed different and that "diagnosis" does not replace sensitivity and thoughtfulness. This book is a wonderful resource for all parents.